Discovering and healing Unconscious Fears is one of my favorite work with my clients. Because I can see how one’s life starts unfolding… Witnessing someone’s changing from being stuck to life… Hard to put into words… It is like seeing a live being created in front of you… It’s almost like a miracle unfolding… in your presence and you are a part of!
What are Unconscious Fears? Well, of course, these are fears that we are not aware of, as they operate outside our awareness. Fears that we are aware of, we can choose to face them or not. However, Unconscious Fears are deceiving. They control us without our ability to know and understand their impact on our lives. Unconscious Fears are seductive. We believe they do not exist, while they keep us stuck in unhappy cycles. Unconscious fears are powerful. They do not stop controlling our lives, unless we address them… Because Unconscious Fears cover old emotional woods that we re-visit so we can heal and live free… Being in touch with our unconscious fears, we can be an active part of creating our lives, instead of being controlled by these fears.
How do you know you have Unconscious Fears, since they operate outside your awareness? Actually, deep inside you know… You know because life is not working for you. You know because you are feeling stuck, going in circles without getting anywhere. You know because you stay of your path, watching your life from outside instead of living your life. You know because you feel disengaged or unconnected. You know because you avoid things for no obvious reason. You know because you do things that sabotages your happiness. You know because you are aware of how much more capable you are then your accomplishments. You know because you can’t make things happen, over and over again…
Some examples of unconscious fears are: “fear of being broken,” “fear of not existing,” “fear of authority figures,” “fear of not being loved,” “fear of rejection,” “fear of humiliation,” “fear of not being good enough,” “fear of not succeeding at something,” “fear of making mistakes,” “fear of being your fault” ….just to name a few. While these fears are normal and we all feel at times like this, Unconscious Fears take over and control what we do, without us being able to make changes. For instance, we all have a fear of rejection. However, someone with a healthy fear of rejection manages to function, no matter what the circumstances are. While an Unconscious Fear of rejection, will make one avoid, isolate, feel ashamed or humiliated, usually angry, or consumed by. It impacts one’s life in undesirable ways. It keeps one away form being engaged, productive, or connected on and on … consistently not functioning up to one’s abilities.
Many times Unconscious Fears are covered by anxiety, depression, unfulfilling relationships, and addictions. As these symptoms, many times, mask such Unconscious Fears.
I am Mihaela Ivan Holtz, Doctor in Clinical Psychology working with creatives and performers. I help creatives and performers with their life struggles, depression, anxiety, performance anxiety, creativity, relationships and love, PTSD, and addictions. And, to become their own best version.
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