Have you struggled a long time with low self-esteem? Are your feelings the result of poor treatment as a child or has something more recent left you questioning your worth?
The external pressure to be more and do more can wear down anyone’s self-esteem. Especially if the past is informing your perception of your abilities, skills, talents and overall potential.
If you are a highly creative person – someone with a big drive or determination to achieve your life goals or dreams – an injured self-esteem will show up in your journey over and over again… It will interfere with your ability to invest yourself in creating your life. An unrealistic or harsh internal voice can repeatedly stifle your creative spark or disconnect you from your performing abilities.
As challenging as it may feel, when your self esteem issues are triggered it’s an opportunity for you to heal and build a healthier and more grounded sense of self-worth.
If you are tired of feeling like you don’t measure up to the world’s standards or you can’t even measure up to your own criteria for success, you’re not alone. We live in a society that is full of ‘opportunities’ to challenge our sense of self-worth.
This is where you can get caught in a trap: you desperately focus on proving your worth instead of really being connected to your worth and really navigating your life from being grounded in your worth.
It’s time for a change…
EMDR therapy – Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing – is very effective in helping you shift from a low self-esteem to a sense of inner self-worth.
How does EMDR help?
EMDR can help you heal old self-worth injuries
Our pasts are filled with misperception. Beliefs are often built on old life-altering memories and unreal assumptions placed on us by others. They’ve been given power by repetitious recollection, despite their lack of truth and substance. They hurt us and hold us back.
With that in mind…
- How can you build your sense of worth when every day you must face a world of critics and competitors?
- What will it take to face those who might not find you worthy of their time or money?
- What can you do to keep your heart and mind from believing the whispers in your head that insists you don’t deserve the best, aren’t good enough, or that your future is not so bright after all?
In short, you must face the impact of outside messages by addressing the root source of those beliefs and feelings.
EMDR therapy can help you release old messages trapped in your mind/ body. Messages you took in with or without awareness, with or without consent. You can clean the old imprint and re-integrate the old and unreal messages into a new more wholesome and freeing self-perception.
Being able to clean the past without harmfully rehashing it is the gift of EMDR.
EMDR is not based on only talk or discussion of the past. Instead – through bilateral eye movements – it facilitates full processing and/or reprocessing of “stuck” memories and traumas, great and small. As a result, recognized emotional wounds no longer retain their attachment and power on you.
EMDR doesn’t “erase” past abuse, abandonment, disrespect, censure, shaming, bullying, or a lack of support, but you let go of the pain or insecurity associated with them. You leave behind such experiences – you emotionally detach from their grip. You step out of old experiences into seeing the present with more emotional clarity.
Thus, you don’t live your life from the traumatic experiences anymore – you start living with the emotional freedom to respond to your present moment from a healthy and grounded self-worth.
EMDR opens you to a new sense of yourself; your sense of self-worth can be seeded
Through EMDR – as you let go of the old messages – you also take in more grounded and healthier self-worth messages. Thus you can take back the power to see yourself, for yourself.
As your self-esteem blossoms, so can your creativity, your productivity, and the quality of your relationships.
The end goal of EMDR therapy (with regards to self-esteem) is not only to release attachments to unhealthy messages but also to replace them with feelings and beliefs of empowerment, self-compassion, and self-appreciation.
From there, you can shift from a low sense of self to a more self-affirming and self-loving perception of who you are.
After EMDR therapy, people report feeling:
– a sense of more grounded trust in themselves
– more connected to their authentic self
– more in touch with their sense of agency and creativity
– developed the capacity to see and use their strengths
– ability to embrace their human imperfections that can’t be changed
– can invest themselves in improving and growing shortcomings
– can more fully honor who they are as whole
– be in touch all that they are and use themselves to create a fulfilling life
Reach out for help…
For a highly creative and determined person, the inability to confidently show up in the world feels almost intolerable.
Don’t go on this way. You can live and create your life from an inner place of self-worth – to show up in the world with all that you are – connected to your own talents, skills, and gifts.
Grounded in your sense of self-worth, you don’t question who you are, you just are. You don’t question what you do, you just do. You don’t get stuck worrying about who you are, you just trust who you are. You don’t measure your value, you just feel your value. And, you don’t compare yourself with others, you just focus on developing yourself.
Having emotional freedom from old injuries you can start responding to current life challenges from a healthier and more adaptive place – based on a more realistic assessment of your value and contributions – which will further build your sense of self-worth.
I am Mihaela Ivan Holtz, Doctor in Clinical Psychology. My specialties are emotional trauma expressed through depression, anxiety, performance anxiety, creativity, relationships and love, PTSD, and addictions – to become their own best version. I am also specialized in working with creatives and performers – you can read more about Therapy for Creatives here.